- STOP WAITING TO BE HAPPY.
The good news is there are always fresh opportunities to be happy. Imagine life is like Grand Central Station, where happy times arrive around the clock. Chances are the opportunity to be happy has already arrived. Sometimes it’s right in front of you. For whatever reason, you are unable to shift your focus to notice and appreciate it.
Regardless of what is going on around you, you can feel happier, be productive, attract success and enjoy yourself during the process. When you shift your focus and the way you think, your perspective changes. When shift happens, your life changes. So get your shift together.
2. ADD HAPPINESS TO YOUR LIFE, RIGHT NOW
Can you see it? You live on a tropical island. You get up when you like and you do what you want. Some guy named Jeeves brings breakfast. From a reclined position on your balcony, all you can see is the ocean and your feet. Ah, the life of the young and retired.
We all dream of being happy someday. Until then, we are overworked, overstressed and under-happy. The dream doesn’t seem possible without a lottery win or a call from a wealthy uncle in poor health. But what fun is life if we aren’t happy about it?
The good news is, you can add happiness to your life now.
3. STOP WORRYING.
Happiness works much like love, in mysterious ways. However, science and psychology tell us that brain chemistry alters emotion. But in order to activate those chemicals, we have to talk about habits first.
There is a formula to happiness, and it lies in changing thought patterns. Your patterns—what you do and think and say every day—determine how happy you are. It’s got nothing to do with what’s around you, but everything to do with how your brain works—that inner voice. Happiness is not within your grasp because it is, quite literally, within you.
4. GET IN A JOYFUL STATE OF MIND.
A joyful life is the best existence we can hope to achieve. It’s the kind of life that produces positive vibes and feel-good energy, and encourages us to look to the future with high hopes. Pure joy might seem like a fleeting emotion, but even if you only feel it for a moment in time, you can hold onto it. You can relish in it.
5. THE RULE OF SELF-CARE.
There are three key rules which can help you to establish your self-care strategy:
- Self-care is different for everyone: We all have different interests and different activities that make us feel good, so it’s important to spend some time working out what’s right for you, whether it’s running a bath or going for a walk.
- Be focused: Write a list of all the little rituals which make you feel good, then choose the top three which you know will be easiest to turn into habits. Focus on these.
- Work out what you don’t like to do and create some boundaries: Really don’t like going out on Sunday nights? Hate checking your emails after hours? While writing a list of the things you like doing, also write down the things you don’t, and create some boundaries around these.
6. APPERECIATE THE SMALL THINGS.
We all have them; those small moments or things that often go unnoticed or unappreciated because we think they’re either insignificant or we take them for granted because we live in a culture that celebrates big accomplishments. But what if we made it a habit to embrace and celebrate the small things? Real life is happening all around us while we’re waiting for the big thing we hope is going to give us some sort of inner peace, contentment or joy. The truth is that often the things that matter most are the small ones.
7. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE.
One big mistake people make is not realizing that happiness is an individual choice. But every choice is influenced by the people in our lives. If you change your life influencers for the better, you can dramatically increase your chances for happiness and success.
In my research, I’ve found that positive social connection is the greatest predictor of long-term happiness. Welcoming a positive new influencer into your world can be one of the most important choices for happiness you make.
8. LAUGH MORE.
” Laughter is like touch – it is a way of communicating without words. It is often a more effective way of communicating, than with words. We have all heard the adage, ‘Laughter is the shortest distance between two people’.”
Breaking news: Laughing makes you feel good. OK, maybe this isn’t so surprising. But try to think about the last time you really laughed—chances are, it may have been some time ago. Preoccupied with all of our grownup responsibilities, we adults just don’t giggle as often as we did when we were kids.
We should, though! Laughing has been shown to reduce stress, enhance immunity, improve blood flow and strengthen relationships.
9. PLAN YOUR HAPPINESS.
Being in a positive and inspired state of mind most of the time is a skill. It requires focus, determination, work, persistence and above all the willingness to do whatever it takes no matter what.
Being inspired is a choice. Being unhappy is a choice. Being productive is a choice. Being miserable is a choice. If you do nothing, you get what most people get: a mixed bag of daily experience filled with inspiration, unhappiness, productivity and misery.
If you make a decision to be consistently inspired, consistently productive, consistently happy… and take it like any skill you have learned in life like driving, or cooking, or playing guitar… you can be a master of it. You don’t become a skilled guitar player by admiring Mark Knopfler once in a while, you don’t become a star employee by just hanging about in office, and you don’t achieve mental emotional mastery by just doing random things in life. You decide, make plans, work towards it each day, and eliminate all obstacles on the way.
Being happy is not complicated. But you have to realize the mind boggling obvious: it’s something you have to commit to. Happiness is not a state of mind that we catch from the ether, nor is it a lottery some people are born with. It is something we either earn through realization of our worthy goals, or something we feel when we focus on the right stimuli (a sunset, a laughing baby, great music), or something we experience when we are in presence of the right people. Being happy is not complicated but being consistently happy is what requires work and planning.
Plan your happiness. Do what needs to be done. Remember, only a happy person can make someone else happy. Don’t be so lazy that you can’t even be happy. You owe it to your friends, family, loved ones and above all else: yourself.
10. FUNDAMENTAL CONCEPT OF HAPPINESS
I think there are fundamental concepts that help with your happiness journey:
- There are two questions for happiness: “How happy are you?”, and, “How happy are you with your life?”
- Happiness is a personal thing. YOUR happiness WAY, is not the WAY of others.
- Happiness is a verb. It’s not static.
- Focus on the greater good. This is the sure-fire way to life yourself and others.
- Act “as if” (How would you hold yourself if you felt happy …)
- Grow happiness under your feet.
- Change your questions to change your focus.
- Change your thoughts to change your feelings.
“Happiness is a direction, not a place.” Take care of yourself..Love yourself..
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